Set and preserve healthy boundaries

Key tools:

  1. Delineate a clear boundary between our identities and the identities of others
  2. Accept ownership and responsibility for our weaknesses & imperfections - no blaming, complaining, excuses or gossip
  3. Set fair, reasonable, and productive limits within the relationship
  4. Provide clear expectations of the standards of behavior
  5. Send messages of security, guidance, safety, support, discipline, protection
  6. Help establish a clear and direct relationship between cause and effect
  7. Emphasize the importance of practicing self-control
  8. Influence and guide to critically think, choose and behave more productively
  9. Maintain a relationship absent of projection and displacement
  10. Establish and maintain appropriate and productive communication